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Understanding Marriage

27 Nov

Third session of premarital counseling!  We are flying through this, but learning so much at the same time!

This session was another setting the foundation for marriage.  Most people misunderstand what marriage is for; most people speak of marriage as if it is a pair of old jeans.  They speak of marriage as something that you put on and take off as you need, and if it doesn’t fit, you just throw them away – just like a pair of old jeans.  Marriage, I have realized, doesn’t belong to us.  Marriage is a possession of God as a priceless creation.  He invented marriage and gave it to us as a gift from Him.  This point spoke to me, as I know many friend’s parents don’t treat marriage as a gift and it is highly misused.  My parents surely didn’t and it is more evident to me know how broken the idea of marriage was to them.

A few take-aways for me from this session were:

  1. Marriage was God’s invention as he felt it wasn’t good for man to be alone (Genesis 1:26) and there was not a suitable helper.  The reason He felt man wasn’t good to be alone was that man would only focus on himself, and God wanted a helper to display the image of God.  The problem wasn’t that Adam was lonely, it was the need of a helper to steward the glory of God.
  2. Separation from parents to become one flesh with future spouse.  This is learning to depend on the Lord and not depend on parents.  This means the marriage is more sacred and more vital than any other relationship.  The marriage in Christ comes first before any other relationships, even earthly parents.
  3. Marriage is a visible symbol of Christ and the Church.  This provides a visual of God’s redeeming love.  Marriage displays His glory, and the glory of Christ and the Church.
  4. The use of marriage is to populate the earth; however, spiritual rebirth has a greater emphasis than physical rebirth.  A Christ-centered marriage provides the foundation of teaching the next generation of God and His grace in our lives.  The use of marriage is a wonderful example of God’s love and truth.
  5. Marriage was also designed for pure enjoyment.  We are suppose to be delighted in our husband or wife through the foundation of service.

These are all such great points to take-away and really use this to set a strong foundation in our marriage.  I can tell it will be so easy to forget if I don’t continually check myself on these and to remind me that marriage is a gift.

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Knowing Who I am

21 Nov

From my post on the Foundation for Marriage was the first session of my premarital counseling.  Here I will be outlining what I took away from my second session and what I have learned.

This was on knowing who I am in terms of what I lust and what I fear.  It was interesting concept, since I haven’t thought of my fears this way before.  For example, if my fear is failure, then automatically I lust success.  It is definitely a new way of looking at lust and fears.  I never realized that what the opposite I fear is what I lust after.

Another way in knowing who I am was to understand myself and others.  This will allow me to see how marriage is for me clearly.  I need to understand where I come from, which was from Session 1, who I am in Jesus Christ, and where I am going.  The understanding of these three things will allow me to better understand why I react the way I do and how to grow and change for the better.