Tag Archives: lust

Sex is a Wedding Gift

26 Feb

So a friend of mine was questioning my stance on sex before marriage, which turned into him saying – well sex is just sex.

Through this conversation, he mentions that most Christians are prude and don’t have sex. Funny things is that happens before marriage and after marriage the bible states in Genesis 9:7 “And you, be fruitful and multiply, increase on the earth multiply in it.” Sex is a gift from God for married men and women. Upon marriage, man and women will become one flesh. You are giving yourself to your husband/wife fully.

Having sex outside the confines of marriage is through your selfish desires. You are using someone else’s future spouse to fulfill your lust. This sounds brutal, but it is so true. You wouldn’t want your future spouse to use or be used.

I saw a quote yesterday and felt it was perfect.

Lust can’t wait to get. Love can’t wait to give.

Through lust and selfish desires, you give into the worldly fleshly desires. Marriage is about giving to one another and sex is another form of giving.

Wait until marriage and avoid sexual immortality. It will prevent so much hurt and brokenness when we use what God’s gift was intended for.

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Knowing Who I am

21 Nov

From my post on the Foundation for Marriage was the first session of my premarital counseling.  Here I will be outlining what I took away from my second session and what I have learned.

This was on knowing who I am in terms of what I lust and what I fear.  It was interesting concept, since I haven’t thought of my fears this way before.  For example, if my fear is failure, then automatically I lust success.  It is definitely a new way of looking at lust and fears.  I never realized that what the opposite I fear is what I lust after.

Another way in knowing who I am was to understand myself and others.  This will allow me to see how marriage is for me clearly.  I need to understand where I come from, which was from Session 1, who I am in Jesus Christ, and where I am going.  The understanding of these three things will allow me to better understand why I react the way I do and how to grow and change for the better.