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Sex is a Wedding Gift

26 Feb

So a friend of mine was questioning my stance on sex before marriage, which turned into him saying – well sex is just sex.

Through this conversation, he mentions that most Christians are prude and don’t have sex. Funny things is that happens before marriage and after marriage the bible states in Genesis 9:7 “And you, be fruitful and multiply, increase on the earth multiply in it.” Sex is a gift from God for married men and women. Upon marriage, man and women will become one flesh. You are giving yourself to your husband/wife fully.

Having sex outside the confines of marriage is through your selfish desires. You are using someone else’s future spouse to fulfill your lust. This sounds brutal, but it is so true. You wouldn’t want your future spouse to use or be used.

I saw a quote yesterday and felt it was perfect.

Lust can’t wait to get. Love can’t wait to give.

Through lust and selfish desires, you give into the worldly fleshly desires. Marriage is about giving to one another and sex is another form of giving.

Wait until marriage and avoid sexual immortality. It will prevent so much hurt and brokenness when we use what God’s gift was intended for.

“The heart of the problem is the problem of the heart”

19 Dec

So I have been slacking lately on blogging.  I have been so busy at work lately that it is interfering with my home life.  I have missed home group for the past two weeks now due to work events, and I have had to work from home some.  It has been hectic due to a team member being on vacation for 3 weeks.  

Due to this, I have been the biggest baby!  I am achey and the biggest complainer.  With this, I have been extremely selfish and I haven’t been fighting fair.  

So through the course of premarital, we went through session six and seven on understanding and resolving marriage conflict biblically.  These two lessons really shined light on how selfish we really are.  In every relationship, there will be conflict whether big or small.  In marriage, two sinner are joined together and the reasons for disagreements is our hearts.  I have learned that those disagreements starts with our heart.  We are more into our own passions and desires than for God’s; thus in turn selfishness.  Whatever rules our hearts will rule our lives.  Only through grace will we overcome those worldly desires.  When our hearts are in the correct place, marriage will be in the correct place to represent Christ and the Church.  

Resolving marriage conflict biblically is done through repentance and forgiveness.  Continually I have to remind myself to be more patient as I have to be more selfless.  I have to remind myself to be more giving and loving, and not worry about the petty things that we tend to bicker about.  Marriage is a journey and is to be enjoyed more over time.  Marriage is about repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation, as much it is about the love and enjoyment you have with your spouse or significant other.  Marriage takes work and the work of our hearts to be in the right place. 

“The heart of the problem is the problem of the heart” 

I love that quote.  I got this from the church and it makes so much sense.  This is a good way to remind myself that I always need to check myself and I need accountability.